If you could go back in time and give your ten year old self a message of importance, what might that be?
As an adult, what do you now know about life that you couldn’t have known then, and how would that translate into guidance, and a message of hope, love and support.
In this Sunday’s breathe, Anthony asked this question; the responses came thick and fast.
“You are safe, this is a good world.”
“Don’t worry, it’s been harder than anyone can understand, but it’s going to be ok in the end. Life is not how you’ve been told, it is safe and you are loved.”
“Do what you like without caring about what others may think. You are making experiences for yourself at the end. It’s going to be alright.”
“It’s ok to feel what you feel. Don’t be afraid; you are safe. I love you just the way you are.”
“Your voice is there….use it…speak up from your heart. Ask for the love you need. You don’t need to be the one who copes with everything. Strength is in community.”
“You are welcome and loved as you are. Thank you for shining your unique light always.”
“Know and feel that you are enough, you belong and you are worthy of love in each moment, and if anyone says anything less, then ignore it!”
“You are enough!! There is no right or wrong you are loved as you are! Your light can shine the world!!”
“Dear 10 yr old, use that strong voice and speak up about the stuff burning in your chest and your throat, you have a right to speak out. Shine your light bright and don’t dim it or make yourself small because you are amazing and you are so loved.”
The general tone of the messages highlighted two key things:
- You are enough
- You are loved exactly as you are.
So where do we get lost along the way? We all grow up in the wake of the conditioning of our primary caregivers. As children we are generally completely reliant on our caregivers to provide food, shelter and love. Many of us however go short in the meeting of these basic needs, and so we grow up believing there is something wrong with us, that we’re somehow not worthy of these needs being met. Our limited childlike perceptions can only make sense of it this way.
We spend a huge amount of our lives putting right these wrongs! There is a saying ‘it’s much harder to teach someone how to unlearn bad things than it is to show them how to learn great things in the first place’, but we also need to come to terms with things as they are, rather than how we wish them to be. From there we can create a launch pad into the conscious creation of a new life for ourselves based on our own beliefs and world view, but what if we don’t trust that?
Life offers us the opportunity to take a journey into self awareness, the re-scripting of our own destiny, and a chance learn how to truly love ourselves, and why would we chose anything less?
What would you tell your inner ten year old right now? What is she/he waiting to hear?